The Real Enemy

If you’re waiting for anything in your life to be perfect before you’re happy, or before you make a move in the direction of your dreams – I’ve got news for you.

It’ll elude you – forever. And you’ll become your own worst enemy.

Perfect doesn’t exist. In us. In our partners, parents, jobs, children.

There is no perfect time and there is no perfect situation.

I waited for the perfect…dot, dot, dot – until I was in my early thirties.

But I realised how much of life I was missing out on by waiting to JUMP until everything was just right.

In order to progress in life, we must try to fly before we are ready. We must accept an element of fear and doubt – and be prepared to make mistakes.

What’s worse – waiting for it all to be perfect. Or realising that years have passed by and perfect never came….?

Fly. Jump. Do it now.

Consistency is what matters. Not perfection.

Perfection will dry up your self belief and crush your creativity.

Choose to go before you’re ready and you’ll realise that’s how ‘aliveness’ is born….

The Importance Of Consistency

There’s a well know saying that motivation is what gets you started, and that habit is what keeps you going. 

Now we have 2 kinds of habits – the unconscious ones that make up behaviour, and the ones we consciously want to cultivate to move us forward.

The thing about the conscious habits is, you have to practice them consistently. I already know this but sometimes we get served a reminder. 

Recently I’ve been doing a lot of travelling and some of my early morning habits suffered. Centering myself by taking time for me before accessing technology, gratitude lists, even eating well.

Guess what? Of course moving around so much is tiring, but not only my energy but my emotional state shifted. I felt like I was slightly out of step. Like I was losing my motivation, my positivity, my purpose.

It was a wake up call.

I’m not going to lie, getting going again was tough. I didn’t want to. Did I still want the results? Yes. Did I want to put in the work? Er, no.

Here’s the thing, the mental and emotional work is just as important as the physical and I know that. So accepting where I was at, how I was feeling, I gave myself 24 hours, then the next morning I started again with my habits.

It felt odd. It felt uncomfortable. But I did it. I put the reps in.

Of course, we all want instant results. I wanted to feel like it was making a difference straight away. It didn’t. It felt hard. If I’m honest if felt pointless. But I kept going.

In less than a week it felt great, and here’s the amazing thing. Good things started happening. People started getting back to me, opportunities appeared. 

Even without that I felt positive, energised, empowered again.

So tomorrow morning, why don’t you take 5 minutes before you do anything else, before you look at your phone, before you switch on the tv and just write down 3 things you’re grateful for, and 3 things that were great yesterday. 

Start the day positive. Keep starting the day positive. Be consistent and the rest will follow.