3 Ways To Lift Your Mood

We wanted to share 3 ways to lift your mood. Your energy. Your spirit.

They’re super simple so there’s no excuse not to do them.

How you feel is YOUR responsibility.

You can wallow or you can choose differently.

The power is in your hands.


1. Look in people’s eyes and smile

In today’s fast paced, self absorbed society, the ability to connect with others is being lost. The digital age has its pros and cons. This is most definitely a con.

Since the very first humans walked this earth, community was key to survival.

So today be conscious of making eye contact and smiling. Open yourself up. See people. Let yourself be seen.

Do it to…..

The barista at the coffee shop. The security guard at your office. The bus driver.

You might feel weird at first.

However, we promise, this tiny act of love and kindness will not only make them feel great, it will be sent right back to you. Energy has a way of doing that.


2. Do a good deed for someone outside your immediate circle

We’re so busy in our own lives. Work, friends, family. It’s incredibly easy to become insular.

Doing a good deed for someone outside your immediate circle will of course benefit them.

It could be volunteering to take an old person’s dog for a nice long walk. It could be buying the homeless person a coffee. It could be mentoring someone once a week. It could be as simple as helping someone with a heavy bag off the tube.

But the kick back is also awesome. Some might say selfish in a positive way 🙂
 
Why?

Because studies have found that it creates a massive spike in oxytocin – otherwise known as the love hormone.

This gorgeous hormone can lower blood pressure , improve our heart health and generate a feeling of self confidence and peace.

So it’s a win win. They feel good. You feel good.


3. Step back in time

We spend a lot of time worrying about the future. Anxiety, fear and paralysis can set in.

We take for granted how far we’ve come because we’re so focussed on wanting more.

So right now, write down 3 things you NOW have that 3 years ago you wanted.

3 things that the person you were 3 years ago desired.

It could be better health. A new car. The love of your life. More money. Increased confidence and sense of purpose.

Yes – that’s you. You’ve created that.

There we are – three simple but impactful ways to lift your mood.

We’d LOVE to know how you get on with these.

The Importance Of Consistency

There’s a well know saying that motivation is what gets you started, and that habit is what keeps you going. 

Now we have 2 kinds of habits – the unconscious ones that make up behaviour, and the ones we consciously want to cultivate to move us forward.

The thing about the conscious habits is, you have to practice them consistently. I already know this but sometimes we get served a reminder. 

Recently I’ve been doing a lot of travelling and some of my early morning habits suffered. Centering myself by taking time for me before accessing technology, gratitude lists, even eating well.

Guess what? Of course moving around so much is tiring, but not only my energy but my emotional state shifted. I felt like I was slightly out of step. Like I was losing my motivation, my positivity, my purpose.

It was a wake up call.

I’m not going to lie, getting going again was tough. I didn’t want to. Did I still want the results? Yes. Did I want to put in the work? Er, no.

Here’s the thing, the mental and emotional work is just as important as the physical and I know that. So accepting where I was at, how I was feeling, I gave myself 24 hours, then the next morning I started again with my habits.

It felt odd. It felt uncomfortable. But I did it. I put the reps in.

Of course, we all want instant results. I wanted to feel like it was making a difference straight away. It didn’t. It felt hard. If I’m honest if felt pointless. But I kept going.

In less than a week it felt great, and here’s the amazing thing. Good things started happening. People started getting back to me, opportunities appeared. 

Even without that I felt positive, energised, empowered again.

So tomorrow morning, why don’t you take 5 minutes before you do anything else, before you look at your phone, before you switch on the tv and just write down 3 things you’re grateful for, and 3 things that were great yesterday. 

Start the day positive. Keep starting the day positive. Be consistent and the rest will follow.

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Don’t Let Comparison Steal Your Joy

We live in an amazing, high tech, ultra connected world. We basically have the world’s knowledge in a device in the palm of our hand. Just stop and consider for a few seconds: you, right now, are living in the most scientifically and technologically advanced time the human species has ever known…

If we look back through history civilisations have come and gone. Vast tracts of the planet have lost their knowledge and learning and regressed.

Right now we are so so privileged. Self driving cars, intelligent devices, breakthroughs in medical science, in quantum theory. Make no mistake, this technology and what it delivers is amazing. Even 15 years ago what we have now would have seemed inconceivable (I know – I was working in mobile content back in 2000 – no one really understood or believed how these devices would advance and transform our lives).

Yet this technology also has a dark side. The paradox is that although we are now the most connected we have ever been in our entire planet’s history, we have soaring levels of loneliness, of depression, of dissatisfaction.

That’s because we can see into each other’s lives like never before. Or rather, we think we’re seeing other’s lives… Twenty years ago you pretty much knew your friends and family well, and what you knew about them, you knew from hanging out with them or them telling you. Today you can monitor your friends’ activities thousands of miles away via your social feed. Not only that, you can see right into complete stranger’s lives as if you know them. And don’t their lives look wonderful?

Social media breeds a false intimacy on multiple levels. Two of which are that you don’t actually know that person at all. The other is that you only see what they want you to see.

You have a perception that their life is soooo much better than yours. Yet what they post may be an illusion too. That travel blogger always on a beach bragging about “laptop lifestyle” is actually lonely and broke. The fitness blogger that always has the perfect body and posts indulgent meals. But they’re not eating those meals. Those pics were taken months ago on a cut. They’re hungry and tired…and loathe their body.

I could go on. The intimacy that social media brings bypasses our filters. We want to believe what we see. Our lives don’t stack up, we slip into negative thought patterns, or worse, negative self-beliefs.

Stop it! Now. It will destroy you.

I bet you have so so much going for you right now.

Comparison is the thief of joy.

Right now just jot down 10 things you’re grateful for in your life – anything that gives you joy or you’d be miserable without.

Take 5 minutes each morning to count your blessings. You have many. This will help to build a positive mindset, and when we give out positivity we begin to get it back 🙂

Do your gratitude list. Apply your filter. Embrace the world with a positive mindset for what you have and what you can achieve.

SHUT OUT THE NOISE. It’s not real. And it has zero bearing on who you are and who you can become.

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