Our midlife years can be confusing. It’s our second adolescence, our hormones are changing, our bodies, our emotions, even our psychology. Then we have all the stress our live place on us amplifying these changes.
We can feel like our body is letting us down, like our energy has gone, our libido is inconsistent, and of course, that can mean our confidence dips.
What’s your reaction? Do you discuss it and start taking action – or do you put it all away to deal with it another day.
As men we’re great at compartmentalising. Shutting those emotions we don’t want to deal with away in a box. We might even think it’s closure, but it’s not.
Those feelings are hidden until they bubble up again and overwhelm you.
You see what we put in shadow only grows stronger. So, here’s what I want to say to you.
You’re not alone in this, you’re not some kind of strange, unique, alien being (but that’s how it can fee). This is a shared experience, you only feel alone because no one else is sharing it. So first, know that.
Second, know that there are simple things you can do to work with these changes in a positive way. We can alter our nutrition, move our body in certain ways, retrain our minds to overcome what’s happening as a result of changing testosterone levels. You don’t need to suffer in silence and bottle up those feelings. In fact if we share we build a community and communities are always stronger than standing alone.
The only question is, do you want to keep suffering in silence because “that’s what men do”, or do you want to be a leader of men, step up, take control of the controllable and start living a more powerful life?
I know which one sounds most appealing to me….